As most of you know my wife recently gave birth to our son and currently I am on paternity leave. Along with using this time to bond with my son and help my family; I am also using this time for some readjustment in my life. I know with being married, working fulltime, trying to pursue ordination, and having a 3 year old and newborn at home time will be very precious…as well as sleep 🙂
One of the areas I am going to be making some adjustments is how I use social media. For many people this is not a problem but I find it easy to get sucked into disagreements and arguments online. Over the last 6 months or so I have greatly improved when it comes to not engaging posts that I know won’t be a beneficial use of my time; however, I know at times I still fall into that trap. There have been many times I have read something political or religious that I adamantly disagree with and I have just continued scrolling but even then there are times that I have continued to dwell on them for far too long.
One of the reasons I think this is is because 3 of my top 5 strengths on the StrengthFinder test are Harmony, Consistency, and Belief. Which basically means I greatly desire for people to get along and come together peacefully (also I hate conflict), I desire for people to be treated fairly and equally, and there are very strong core beliefs that I have that I hold onto very passionately. We all know there are plenty of things online that would fuel these fires!
Because of that I want to continue using this blog to dive deeper into issues that are important for our faith and lives. I will be sharing my blog posts on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Tumbler and I may share other articles that I find are spiritually helpful but I will be refraining from engaging contentious topics that others have posted.
On Facebook/Twitter other than my blog posts I will be sharing things going on with my family, pictures, funny memes, or other uplifting items. While I think this will be a positive step for myself I also will need to make some other readjustments. One of those being what posts from others I am inundated with on a daily basis. So, while at this point I am not planning on going on a “unfriending” spree, I will be keeping a careful eye on whose posts for me tend to cause more irritation and frustration and then on Facebook (where most of my frustration comes) I will be un-following people.
Why do I share this? It is not because I think most people will care at all, because for most people I don’t think it matters to them if I “follow” them or not. I share this with you because I think it is important at times to pause and reflect on our lives and then make the needed changes. This is a needed change for me and I hope you may take some time today to reflect on your life as well and make some changes that will enable you to be more healthy.